Sweet Escape — Solitude

Sweet Escape -- Solitude

In keeping with our theme the past couple of days of being authentic, being real, and all needing times of solitude, today my sweet escape is simple. Solitude. Time to reflect. To be quiet. To disconnect from the chaos of life.

So, does it seem ironic that yesterday I talked about solitude as being silent and today I am saying you must participate in a discussion? Just like to keep you all on your toes!

Read this short but fascinating excerpt from Psychology Today (or read the whole article here):

What’s really blocking our joy in relationships, our creativity, and our peace of mind? One surprising answer, in this age of alienation, is a lack of solitude.

Meaningful alone time, it turns out, is a powerful need and a necessary tonic in today’s rapid-fire world. Indeed, solitude actually allows us to connect to others in a far richer way.

Life’s creative solutions require alone time. Solitude is required for the unconscious to process and unravel problems. Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers…The natural creativity in all of us—the sudden and slow insights, bursts and gentle bubbles of imagination—is found as a result of alone time.

So, dear ones, tell me ways you find solitude in your daily life at home! Yes, comments ARE OPEN!

We can’t always pack our bags and head to The Inn at Solitude. Do you turn off your computer? Your TV or ipod? Your phones? Do you take a walk in the forest or on a nearby beach? Do you have a special corner of your house (see my sweet escape for solitude here) where you can think and be alone in silence? Do you ever just SIT and be quiet, or do you feel compelled to always be doing something, like reading blogs, doing crafts or cleaning? Or, do you never have any solitude at all?

Share your insights, readers, one and all! And tell us if you feel better for your times of solitude! Or if you never have solitude, do you think you need it or do you think it could be a missing ingredient in your life?

I can’t wait to see what you all think about this aspect of life and how it impacts us personally and in how we create our homes.

Does our home allow us solitude, or is it always screaming at us?

Sweet Escape -- Solitude

Here are some thoughts from others on solitude:

I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion. ~Henry David Thoreau

It is in deep solitude that I find the gentleness with which I can truly love my brothers. The more solitary I am the more affection I have for them…. Solitude and silence teach me to love my brothers for what they are, not for what they say. ~Thomas Merton

I think that I cannot preserve my health and spirits, unless I spend four hours a day at least – and it is commonly more than that – sauntering through the woods and over the hills and fields, absolutely free from all worldly engagements. ~Henry David Thoreau

True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. ~William Penn

We live in a very tense society. We are pulled apart… and we all need to learn how to pull ourselves together…. I think that at least part of the answer lies in solitude. ~Helen Hayes

It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts. ~K.T. Jong

note: photos shown are from my tour of The Street Of Dreams 2007

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Photo: Robbie Caponetto from Cottage Living online

Thank you all so much for coming by, reading all those facts about me and especially I want to thank you for just being you. Each one of you that comes by, whether you’ve been here 30 times or this is your first visit, each of you adds something unique to this blog. Do you know that? You guys are very cool.

This blog isn’t about me. Even though I rambled on yesterday about me, and sometimes I offer this or that about my own life, this blog is for all of you, not just a place for me to chronicle my every move (note: there is nothing wrong with personal blogs, this one is just designed for a different purpose)!

I want you all to have homes AND lives that are beautiful! I don’t want you to have one without the other, nor do I want to talk about one without the other. I don’t mean to sound sappy here, it is just what this blog is about. The Inspired Room is about interior design, that is true, but it is really about how our life inspires our homes and how our homes inspire our life. It is our own little special Stylish Living blog, the way I see true style and beauty. Living authentically inspires the kind of home you have. I want you to have beauty in your life and beauty in your home.

So, with that said, I am starting something new here. Solitude. I know! Crazy! Since I am a long-winded writer, how can we practice solitude here? Let me tell you. I’ve been thinking. If I want to inspire you (and myself, believe me, I need this too) to live life more beautifully, I cannot do that without discussing and then practicing solitude. Solitude is really the necessary ingredient in appreciating beauty, being able to think more clearly and being creative. It is the process of calming your inner world that will inspire your outer world. Solitude isn’t the same as loneliness. Solitude is a good thing. It is a productive thing, but it is something we have a hard time doing in this fast paced world .

So, what I am going to do is design my life right here and allow you to do the same! Since I am still a baby blogger, just into my third month, I am just figuring out what works for me and how I can manage new things in my life. What I have realized is that I am having a lot of wonderful interaction, a lot of amazing inspiration, but not a lot of time to process it and rejuvenate myself in order to allow creativity and inspiration to impact my life. Not only am I blogging, but I am writing for other publications, AND still trying to help my real life clients! Not to mention I have children. And a husband. And laundry. Enough said! I need to create time for solitude.

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Photo: Douglas Hill from Cottage Living online

How do you all fit into this, my sweet readers? Not to worry, I am not deserting you! This is how you fit into it. I want the same for you! I want you to be able to step back and just experience inspiration without having to take the extra few moments to pat me on the back, or marvel at my amazing post by leaving me a comment. Yes, sometimes (ONCE IN AWHILE) I am going to turn off my comments. GASP!

I love your comments, but I don’t want you to feel obligated every single post. The main reason is, I might start posting more often, whenever I find something of beauty to share. I have a lot of ideas, and some of them I just want to share with you spontaneously without having to create a whole post around it, or wait for a special day to share it. If I end up doing more posts, it won’t mean more effort on your part to comment more. Those comment-less posts are for inspiration for all of us, not necessarily for interaction. I won’t turn off comments all the time, just sometimes, every now and then. Other times, gab away! Those comment times are what makes this blog full of life, I love hearing your contributions, struggles, inspirations and ideas. It isn’t all about me.

If you do have something you want to say right away, feel free, just put it on a different post, since all the recent comments still show up in the sidelines you can still comment if you want to. You can comment every day if you want, just some posts will be “comment-less.”

So, are you with me here? Did I explain this new direction well enough? If not, I am leaving my comments open for this post, so let me know what you think! If it is confusing, let me know! If you are worried about me, let me know! :-) If you think this stinks, let me know. I’m just figuring this whole blogging world out, so thanks for being real with me and letting me be real with you. I want you to all be a part of this with me, and I don’t want to overwhelm people. I am just trying to make it do-able for all of us. Does it make sense? If you are new, join in! No cliques here.

Do you like these daybeds? I think they look so cozy. Perfect for a moment of solitude!

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living