Finding Joy at Home {When You’re Not Feeling It}

Finding Joy at Home {When You're Not Feeling It}

Do you ever just feel like you are in a bit of a slump at home? Perhaps you don’t have a project going on right now that is creatively inspiring you, or maybe you are too distracted, busy or even in a life transition so you aren’t investing big doses of creativity into your home?

It is easy to feel inspired when you are moving to a great new house, when you have a home improvement project in the works or if you just finished a remodel and your home feels fresh and ready for your special finishing touches. If you have a decent budget for improvements and you can afford to plan new things for your home that can actually happen (heheheh), that is always inspiring too!

But in the in between times, when nothing big or exciting is happening in our home or things are at a standstill, when creativity isn’t flowing for whatever reason, that’s when the true test comes.

Can we find joy in the little every day ordinary experiences right where we are? Or are we only satisfied when we get to do the big improvements, experience the fun of getting settled in a new house, or are basking so much in the highlight reel moments that we miss the little everyday elements of joy?

Sigh. Raise your hand if you find yourself in a slump sometimes at home! {quietly raises hand}

It’s true. I LOVE the season of moving into a new house.
Confession. Home improvements will perk me up.
Guilty. Money in the bank to buy something new puts a spring in my step.

But when NOTHING is going on to inspire me at home? That’s when I have to take a manageable step to cultivate joy in the ordinary every day things. I have to start somewhere in order to find creative inspiration with what I already have, right there in front of me.

Finding Joy at Home {When You're Not Feeling It}

Do I always feel like taking that first step without something big and exciting going on to motivate me to action?

Nope. I love exciting things. I’m energized by something new and creatively inspiring!

But the everyday, hum drum, I can’t do what I want right now sameness can make life feel a little dull at home. 

Sometimes my perfectionist side prevents me from doing ANYTHING until I have all the ducks in a row (and when does that really happen, anyway? Ducks are always running every which way at our house, quacking so loud it’s hard to rally them and get their beaks all pointed in the right direction!).

So, when I get in that slump and days or months go by where I am uninspired and spiraling into an abyss of not loving my house like I should, I tell myself it’s time to get going. I say to myself, “SELF, YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO. Girl, DO IT!” Yeah, I talk to myself. Sadly, I also talk BACK to myself. That’s when things get a little weird.

When my oldest (Kylee) was little and I would ask her to put her toys away she would say, “I can’t, Mama. It’s too heaby.”

I tell myself things like that ALL THE TIME when I’m in a slump. I can’t do that right now because … {insert every lame excuse in the book.} What can I say? The apple didn’t fall too far from the tree. Silly excuses for procrastination and embracing the slump come out of my mouth without me thinking about it.

When I’m in a slump, my legs feel like rubber and my arms are weak and my brain is in a fog. I put off what I could do today because I am convinced tomorrow I’ll be more inspired. I dream that something exciting will happen to perk up my creativity and then I’ll feel motivated.

Well, news flash. Pinterest-worthy times and exciting developments don’t always show up when you need them. Maybe some people live with exciting moments all the time (nice) but at this house, those times are the exceptions. We live in the ordinary most of the time!

Finding Joy at Home {When You're Not Feeling It}

So when I realize I’m wallowing in the in-between, waiting for something big to happen, it’s time to shake things up myself and stop waiting for the highlight reel to play.

Every day the ordinary can be more beautiful and inspiring if you want it to be. Yes, it’s a choice. You just have to start looking for ways to make it happen with what you have.

I know this because I’ve watched myself get out of a slump and get inspired to show more love to my home a zillion times in my life the exact same way.

I take a step.

I follow my routines.

I start puttering around the house.

I show my house some love.

Want a little inspiration to get started in finding joy in the little things? I share 31 days of Love Your Home Challenges in the book Love the Home You Have! I think there is more inspiration and creativity when you find your people and you all are MY PEOPLE! Have you looked at Home Love Stories, yet? Y’all. 600 friends hanging out in the neighborhood (WHA?), sharing stories and offering encouragement to see beauty in the everyday. Join us?

(Thank you all for your wonderful comments about the book release! My heart is overflowing from your kindness. Oh, and I LOVE seeing the updates from those of you doing the 31 day challenges in your home. Come share on Instagram or Home Love Stories and use the hashtag #loveyourhomechallenge and #lovethehomeyouhave. It’s really fun to see what you all are up to!)

Freshen Up for Spring: Green and White

Freshen Up for Spring: Green and White


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Spring is in the air and that means I’m thinking about green!

Plants, books, fabrics, accessories, paint, lighting, vegetables or fruit, it doesn’t really matter what it is, I just think adding a bit of green makes a room come to life. This time of year I especially love a fresh green and white color scheme. At my house I find myself looking around for green books to stack here and there, and for other green accessories to bring out. And of course, I always have plants!

Have you ever noticed that in magazines every room has something organic in it, like a plant or bouquet? I love bouquets but I don’t love how short-lived they are. Years ago I asked my husband to bring me a plant instead of cut flowers because it would last longer (ha, I guess my practical side won out of the romantic side)! I really do love plants in a room. Yeah, I know, sometimes they die. But they don’t always (and if they do, they usually long outlast a bouquet!), so it’s worth experimenting to see what does well in your home!

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