Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

In the new issue of House Beautiful almost every article refers to the word COZY. Of course, I was very drawn to that idea! Especially right this minute because I am absolutely freezing! I am wearing a coat with a fur collar, that is how cold I am, even in my house. If I could type with mittens on, I would. I am ready to go put on my PJ’s and leap under my covers to be cozy in my bed, but I want to be ON TIME this week for my Friday Sweet Escape so I am staying up a bit longer to put this together. Because I love you all, I am a dedicated blogger.

So for our Sweet Escape this week, of course we must escape into Four Poster Bed Coziness! What? Is that lame? Pathetic? No adventures, no trains, no Scottish castles, no dreams of buying equestrian estates, just coziness? I know, this month just begs for posts on holidays and coziness. It is hard for me to focus on anything else!

Speaking of being COZY, do you know what my favorite movies are to watch when I want to be cozy? Father of the Bride and Father of the Bride II. I have watched those movies dozens of times. I laugh and cry the whole way through. I love everything about those movies. I adore the house (it’s cozy), cry about the daughter getting married, laugh hysterically at Franc. I might have to go watch it again right now. Love that show. It is the kind of movie I just want to watch wearing my flannel pajamas and bunny slippers. In a four poster bed, if I had one.

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Ok, so coziness. Here are a few bedrooms with four poster beds that looked pretty cozy to me. Remember awhile back when I told you I was going to turn my whole third floor into a cozy master suite? I still am going to do that. Just haven’t gotten there yet, but I am still planning on it. A few of these cozy photos are my inspiration photos, so for those of you who have been my BFF you probably have seen some of them here before.

Thanks for indulging me in my cozy fest. You know, one of my BFF Shelbi Keeper of the Chocolates said the NICEST thing to me the other day (and please visit her blog for a great post on giving to a worthy charity!). She said I have the best girlfriend blog EVER. That is because I have the best girlfriend blog READERS ever.

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Top photo: Cathy Kincaid, Above, Rob Melnychuck: cottage living

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Above, Gemma Comas and below, Paul Costello: Domino Magazine

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Above, Carolyn Roehm via Peak of Chic

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Sweet Escape: Four Poster Coziness

Above: Charlotte Moss nymag.com

Beyond Black Leather Recliners

Beyond Black Leather Recliners

“Men and women must contribute synergistically to the process of creating a beautiful life at home. This is something that should be thought through carefully if we are going to feel true satisfaction and pleasure of creating and living in a home together.” Alexandra Stoddard

I often hear from clients and friends that their husbands have poor taste, no interest in decorating, or leave the entire process of decorating up to the wife. If you live in a home with a man, I hope that you consider his tastes, even if you think he has questionable taste! I know that can be scary if you live with a man who is all about black leather furniture, but hang with me here! Homes will simply not be authentically beautiful, in my opinion, if a husband and wife live there and the husband’s tastes are not taken in to consideration.

Find subtle ways to include him in the process if he appears disinterested! Consider his hobbies, what colors he seems drawn to, where he likes to nap, his size, his interests in and out of the home.

You’ll find out more about his taste as you include him in small ways. If you see a beautiful painting, you can comment on it and ask him how he feels about it. Does he like the frame? What about the texture or intensity of color? Show him pictures of rooms in a magazine and ask him what he likes about them, or dislikes. Over time, you will begin to discover styles and colors you can both agree on, or ways you can incorporate things he is drawn to with things you like.

I know many men appear disinterested, or you are afraid of the results of including him. I completely understand! You’d prefer to just do it yourself because you trust yourself to come up with something you will love! But trust me, if you want a home that has depth, meaning, authenticity and is truly a home, it is the combination of your taste and his that make it a beautiful place to be for both of you.

It may not be 100% YOU, but living as a couple is not about being 100% YOU. It is blending your taste with his taste and coming up with something more beautifully layered and complex than you alone. And it doesn’t have to include black leather recliners any more than it has to include all frilly pink things in every nook and cranny. Find ways to compromise and include the best of both of your taste!

This is important: you want to compromise on matters of opinion and personal taste, not on matters of good taste or good design. If something is tasteful, just not exactly YOUR favorite, you can compromise and it will work in the grand scheme of things. And honestly, I think the house will actually look better for it. More real, more layers, more interest, less perfectly staged. That is just my opinion.

I know some of you may throw rotten tomatoes at me, but I am just putting it out there. What you do with it is up to you!

Photo: Pieter Estersohn, designer John Bottitt, from Cottage Living online
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