Beyond Black Leather Recliners

Beyond Black Leather Recliners

“Men and women must contribute synergistically to the process of creating a beautiful life at home. This is something that should be thought through carefully if we are going to feel true satisfaction and pleasure of creating and living in a home together.” Alexandra Stoddard

I often hear from clients and friends that their husbands have poor taste, no interest in decorating, or leave the entire process of decorating up to the wife. If you live in a home with a man, I hope that you consider his tastes, even if you think he has questionable taste! I know that can be scary if you live with a man who is all about black leather furniture, but hang with me here! Homes will simply not be authentically beautiful, in my opinion, if a husband and wife live there and the husband’s tastes are not taken in to consideration.

Find subtle ways to include him in the process if he appears disinterested! Consider his hobbies, what colors he seems drawn to, where he likes to nap, his size, his interests in and out of the home.

You’ll find out more about his taste as you include him in small ways. If you see a beautiful painting, you can comment on it and ask him how he feels about it. Does he like the frame? What about the texture or intensity of color? Show him pictures of rooms in a magazine and ask him what he likes about them, or dislikes. Over time, you will begin to discover styles and colors you can both agree on, or ways you can incorporate things he is drawn to with things you like.

I know many men appear disinterested, or you are afraid of the results of including him. I completely understand! You’d prefer to just do it yourself because you trust yourself to come up with something you will love! But trust me, if you want a home that has depth, meaning, authenticity and is truly a home, it is the combination of your taste and his that make it a beautiful place to be for both of you.

It may not be 100% YOU, but living as a couple is not about being 100% YOU. It is blending your taste with his taste and coming up with something more beautifully layered and complex than you alone. And it doesn’t have to include black leather recliners any more than it has to include all frilly pink things in every nook and cranny. Find ways to compromise and include the best of both of your taste!

This is important: you want to compromise on matters of opinion and personal taste, not on matters of good taste or good design. If something is tasteful, just not exactly YOUR favorite, you can compromise and it will work in the grand scheme of things. And honestly, I think the house will actually look better for it. More real, more layers, more interest, less perfectly staged. That is just my opinion.

I know some of you may throw rotten tomatoes at me, but I am just putting it out there. What you do with it is up to you!

Photo: Pieter Estersohn, designer John Bottitt, from Cottage Living online

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Photo: Robbie Caponetto from Cottage Living online

Thank you all so much for coming by, reading all those facts about me and especially I want to thank you for just being you. Each one of you that comes by, whether you’ve been here 30 times or this is your first visit, each of you adds something unique to this blog. Do you know that? You guys are very cool.

This blog isn’t about me. Even though I rambled on yesterday about me, and sometimes I offer this or that about my own life, this blog is for all of you, not just a place for me to chronicle my every move (note: there is nothing wrong with personal blogs, this one is just designed for a different purpose)!

I want you all to have homes AND lives that are beautiful! I don’t want you to have one without the other, nor do I want to talk about one without the other. I don’t mean to sound sappy here, it is just what this blog is about. The Inspired Room is about interior design, that is true, but it is really about how our life inspires our homes and how our homes inspire our life. It is our own little special Stylish Living blog, the way I see true style and beauty. Living authentically inspires the kind of home you have. I want you to have beauty in your life and beauty in your home.

So, with that said, I am starting something new here. Solitude. I know! Crazy! Since I am a long-winded writer, how can we practice solitude here? Let me tell you. I’ve been thinking. If I want to inspire you (and myself, believe me, I need this too) to live life more beautifully, I cannot do that without discussing and then practicing solitude. Solitude is really the necessary ingredient in appreciating beauty, being able to think more clearly and being creative. It is the process of calming your inner world that will inspire your outer world. Solitude isn’t the same as loneliness. Solitude is a good thing. It is a productive thing, but it is something we have a hard time doing in this fast paced world .

So, what I am going to do is design my life right here and allow you to do the same! Since I am still a baby blogger, just into my third month, I am just figuring out what works for me and how I can manage new things in my life. What I have realized is that I am having a lot of wonderful interaction, a lot of amazing inspiration, but not a lot of time to process it and rejuvenate myself in order to allow creativity and inspiration to impact my life. Not only am I blogging, but I am writing for other publications, AND still trying to help my real life clients! Not to mention I have children. And a husband. And laundry. Enough said! I need to create time for solitude.

Solitude, Daybeds and Stylish Living

Photo: Douglas Hill from Cottage Living online

How do you all fit into this, my sweet readers? Not to worry, I am not deserting you! This is how you fit into it. I want the same for you! I want you to be able to step back and just experience inspiration without having to take the extra few moments to pat me on the back, or marvel at my amazing post by leaving me a comment. Yes, sometimes (ONCE IN AWHILE) I am going to turn off my comments. GASP!

I love your comments, but I don’t want you to feel obligated every single post. The main reason is, I might start posting more often, whenever I find something of beauty to share. I have a lot of ideas, and some of them I just want to share with you spontaneously without having to create a whole post around it, or wait for a special day to share it. If I end up doing more posts, it won’t mean more effort on your part to comment more. Those comment-less posts are for inspiration for all of us, not necessarily for interaction. I won’t turn off comments all the time, just sometimes, every now and then. Other times, gab away! Those comment times are what makes this blog full of life, I love hearing your contributions, struggles, inspirations and ideas. It isn’t all about me.

If you do have something you want to say right away, feel free, just put it on a different post, since all the recent comments still show up in the sidelines you can still comment if you want to. You can comment every day if you want, just some posts will be “comment-less.”

So, are you with me here? Did I explain this new direction well enough? If not, I am leaving my comments open for this post, so let me know what you think! If it is confusing, let me know! If you are worried about me, let me know! :-) If you think this stinks, let me know. I’m just figuring this whole blogging world out, so thanks for being real with me and letting me be real with you. I want you to all be a part of this with me, and I don’t want to overwhelm people. I am just trying to make it do-able for all of us. Does it make sense? If you are new, join in! No cliques here.

Do you like these daybeds? I think they look so cozy. Perfect for a moment of solitude!