So, I’ve been hinting at my rough couple of weeks. While I was feeling increasingly uneasy about our situation, I was hoping to get to today and have good news to share! I can’t go into detail because it is a legal matter, but I can tell you that today was supposed to be the day of my old house closing….my house would have been officially sold and we would finally be free to fully start our life in Washington! I waited three full months for this closing from the time my buyers made the offer and I was SO LOOKING FORWARD to celebrating today.
After a long year of unemployment for my husband, him starting a great new job this past January, the strain of getting our house on the market, looking for a new home and the complications of moving to Washington to start a new life, I was ready to feel settled. I am not feeling settled living in one state and owning a home in another! I was ready to breath a sigh of relief that our long journey to Washington was finally over.
Well, sometimes life stinks and things don’t go like we hope they will. In spite of our hard work, diligent prayers and positive attitudes, things go wrong. Horribly wrong sometimes. God gave everyone free will and they can make some pretty rotten choices that affect other people in negative ways! Today, I am not celebrating. Today, I am sad and bewildered and tired.
After accepting the offer from my buyers three months ago and patiently waiting for their long closing period (meanwhile losing a backup offer!) two days ago they decided they didn’t want to buy a house now and they walked away. Yep, just walked away, leaving us picking up all the pieces. I received their official cancellation paperwork yesterday, the day before closing was scheduled.
Today was supposed to be an entirely different sort of a day. It makes me physically sick to think of all this means and what it could mean for us…we were all set to buy our new house next week. A lot of our plans and other people’s plans were affected by their decision.
I am angry, frustrated, disappointed and in disbelief that I have to start over. We moved everything out of the old house so the new owners could move in today. Now? I have to re-stage the house and start over.
Life isn’t always fair. It doesn’t always make sense. It isn’t always easy. It isn’t always beautiful. But I am choosing to continue to trust that God is watching out for us and working all things together for good. Even rotten things. Especially rotten things. I just need to trust and wait.
So many people are hurting far more than I am in life, I feel like my current situation is tiny — for that I am grateful.
I kind of felt like Flat Stanley this week,
trying to keep smiling in spite of that tire looming over my head!
FYI, my son took this photo. Poor Flat Stanley!
It was not a beautiful week for me, but in spite of all that happened, I pushed past my fog of disappointment and found something to be happy about. A great community of people who joined in together to create something beautiful with what we had. Sometimes that is all we can do, isn’t it? — just create beauty out of what we have.
Thanks for joining in and making the procrastinator party such a smashing success. I am BLOWN AWAY by your projects. You are a talented bunch, let me tell you! If you haven’t made your way through the links (I’m still working on it), you are in for a lot of inspiration!
{THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED!} In fact, let’s do a prize right now. I have a book to give away called DECORATING IS FUN by Dorothy Draper. It is an old classic that has been recently reprinted. I am going to give you an extra entry if you were one of the party participants. Any of you, even if you didn’t join in the party, can enter to win via the comments. There will be one winner, chosen at random, on Sunday night the 17th at 9PST.
Melissa ~ for those of us who love to plan and organize our lives, uncertainty is very, very hard to deal with. It stops us dead in our tracks and makes us look upward and WAIT… and LISTEN. Procrastination aside, its a tough gig to deal with for us “get-it-done” folks.
You may never know why your prospective buyers did not go forward. Maybe it was as shallow as a better deal, or maybe it was their own fears about finances, or a health event, or a family crisis. I had the same thing happen to me, years ago, buyer backed out and put us in a real financial pickle for several months. I learned a lot form the experience, mostly about how to make sure that I had a REALLY good ” Plan B” from here on out!
Prayers ~ Eileen @ Star’s Fault
Eileen @ Star’s Faults inspiring blog post..Hooked on Glitter Pins ~
I am so sorry about your house not selling. We live in a messed up world! Keep trusting in God. You will not be disappointed in the end.
I will ask Him to bless you and to help you see all the blessing you have right now too.
Joys inspiring blog post..Sage Neck Tie Purse
Had to comment to say I’m so sorry. Prayers for encouragement.
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I ‘m sorry the deal fell through. When something like this happens I always find out later that God had something so much better in mind. When I was going through a very scary illness several years ago, a friend was voicing her disappointment in her new house not being inspected for a couple of weeks longer and therefore she and her family could not move in when expected. They had already closed on thier old house. She looked at me and apologized for complaining about something so trivial. I told her, “Honey, if it’s a big deal to you then it’s a big deal to me, too.” I told her we would pray about it and sure enough the inspector made a special effort and got the inspection done before the bank called the construction loan due. And I know she prayed diligently for my healing every day I was sick, and today I am very healthy (except for that over weight thing but I’m trusting God for that too). So it’s always better to get the prayer balling rolling as soon as possible. Thank you for your comment on my chairs. I feel great getting the whole roof finished, thanks for the challenge!
Me- the eternal optimist has had trouble with my husband’s constant “We don’t have the keys yet” while I am trying to get all of my painting and decorating plans ready to go for the 29th when we (are set to) close on our house. Now I see things really can go wrong still. I’m sorry to hear about your situation but how you are still able to push forward with your message of finding beauty in life every day – no matter what- is inspiring. You don’t just talk (blog) the talk, you walk the walk. I hope it all works out for you soon.
ginas inspiring blog post..ever since we did this…
Melissa, I’m so sorry that things didn’t work out the way you expected or wanted. Your right sometimes life does stink.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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Melissa, I am so sorry to hear about your house closing falling through. We had the same thing happen last year at this time on our home. It is actually still up for sale- know God has a reason for this kind of timing-
I actually did get a project almost done and so linked it here- I do so wish I would have joined the Procrastinator Party and will certainly be doing so in July when you have it again!
blessings
mary
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I am so sorry that this happened. That is just the pits. I hope the situation is resolved soon for you and your family. I hate to hear this.
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Melissa, this is a little late, but my heart just sunk to hear this, but what a wonderful outlook you have. I have some family members in the same situation and I just feel for you. It will all work out, maybe even for the better…you just never know. Thank you for such a great procrastinator party, I would be a supporter whenever you have one~I love the accountablity. Blessings to you!
Melissa, I can empathize with you. My heart breaks for you and your family.
I’m having to remind myself that God sees the big picture, and I can’t. I had a disappointment this weekend, and though not as huge as yours, I still struggled with, “WHY, God?” And it’s okay to ask Him why. It’s what builds our faith to come out on the other side and say, “Okay, I don’t understand, but I have to trust that you know what You are doing.” I’ll be praying for y’all!
Heathahlees inspiring blog post..All those tassels….
I am so sorry to hear about your house troubles, something similar happened to us and you have to keep thinking that something better is coming!!! It is hard when you are in the thick of things but you never know what tomorrow might bring. Sending good thoughts to you.
Kim
Oh Melissa I am sorry. I understand all that you are saying, fatigue, disappointment yet trying hard to remember that God is in control. I hope the days since then have been better.
I’m sorry, Melissa. I was afraid something like this was going on when I saw your comments over the last few weeks.
HUGS!
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I’m so sorry about your house. My husband is currently having some bad things going on at work, and it hurts. But it has been a time that has reminded us both that God is in complete control of our lives. Even when something seems bad, it did not take God by surprise, and He has a plan in it. And as believers we can just rest in Him and know that He is going to work out His will in our lives, even when other people do things to us that we don’t like and that hurt. I do hope that your old house sells very quickly, and that you can have a peace about it all.
Shannon
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I don’t suppose one more person telling you they’re sorry will help, but I am. Sorry. And although I believe as you do that God is watching over us and that He has something better in store, sometimes, that’s just not what you want to hear!
I hope things are resolved soon. I love your blog!
I’m so sorry to hear about your house troubles Melissa. There must be something in the air because we’re having issues with our buyer too. Their buyer backed out on their house and now we have to get an extension on ours so they can wait for it to sell again. I hope yours sells quickly!
rue
rues inspiring blog post..Is it just me?