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Make Your Home Your Own
New England Home Photography by John Gould Bessler

Do you feel the freedom to make your house your own? Do you decorate in a way that makes you happy, brings you joy and reflects who you are? I know so many people tend to get “stuck” when it comes to making their own decorating decisions for their home.

We worry too much about what other people will think (especially for those of us who post our homes on social media, since we have Instagram telling us what people like or don’t like).

We sometimes worry too much about the impact our changes will have on a future sale, even if we are making good decisions and have no plans to move any time soon. We worry that we are making a design or budget mistake, even if our heart knows it’s what would bring us more joy.

Make Your Home Your Own
Country Living

Your home is the one place on earth where you should feel fully comfortable and give yourself permission to be surrounded by what you love! Even if you are renting or are only in your home for a short time, you can find ways to make it your own.

Make Your Home Your Own
2019 Southern Living Idea House
Photographer: Laurey W. Glenn; Stylist: Liz Strong

There are so many ways to make your house your own. Whether it is changes to the architecture, the accessories, the colors, the style, the arrangement of the furniture, the organization of the room or the look of the lighting or rugs.

My general rule of thumb with decorating is: if a design decision or change is extra scary because a mistake would cost you thousands of dollars to fix or would set you back more money than you can afford to lose if you decide later that you don’t like it, it might put your mind at ease to first ask for a professional opinion, get design help from someone you fully trust, or give it more time to think it over. Don’t rush it.

Otherwise, don’t worry! Do what you love. Bring in personality. Do something unexpected if you want to! It’s OK to put a room together in a different way than everyone else. Blend in pieces or features you don’t love as much so doesn’t have to stand out.

Make Your Home Your Own
New England Home Photography by John Gould Bessler

Chances are, you can find a way love the room as a whole in spite of any design missteps you make along the way, or any limitations the room might have. It’s OK to live with the imperfect. I think imperfect is far more charming, anyway.

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14 Ways to Get Out of a Decorating Slump

25 Ways to Restyle Your Home

10 Easy Ways to Redecorate Your Home for Free

How to Create Continuity in Your Style

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Make Your Home Your Own


  1. Bonnie Stoltzfoos

    Hi Melissa! :) I love this post. Have you ever written a post about how you draw inspiration from these photos and then practically apply it in your own house? On a budget? It would be fun to see how your brain works! :)

  2. Sharon Smith

    You are so right! We need to not be afraid to make our homes “ours”! I recently moved into an older two bedroom condo (which I own) and I am having fun coming up with ideas. I did a bold accent wall in the fireplace wall in the living room. I was tempted to go less bold but I went for it. I love it. Last night my son was older and he said Mom, I really like this. You have made quite a home for yourself here. The ultimate compliment for me! On to the other rooms! Thanks for your inspiration.

    • Melissa @ The Inspired Room

      Ah, I love that! Way to go, it can be hard sometimes to get into the right frame of mind but once you do it’s FUN! :) Enjoy your home, Sharon!

  3. Denise Zerilli

    Love the rattan tables in the Southern Living pic – Beautiful .

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